People often assume that being a psychic medium is all about glowing auras, divine messages, and magical moments. But many don’t realize how often I feel drained after a reading—not because something went wrong, but because so much energy is exchanged. That every reading must be a joyful reunion between souls, filled with light and love.
But here’s the truth no one talks about:
Sometimes, I walk out of a session feeling completely drained—spiritually, emotionally, even physically.
Why?
Because I don’t just deliver messages.
I hold your pain.
I witness your grief.
I walk into your energy field and stand face-to-face with the emotions, memories, and souls that even you struggle to confront.
Whether it’s a mother yearning for closure from her departed child… or a spirit that’s still angry, unsettled, or afraid to move on—every session takes a piece of my energy with it.
And that’s okay.
Because healing isn’t light work.
But it does need balance.
Why I Sometimes Feel Drained After a Reading: The Hidden Cost of Mediumship
In this blog, I’ll take you behind the veil and share the unseen side of being a medium—why I sometimes feel drained after a reading, and how I recharge my spirit to continue serving you with love, clarity, and strength.
Let’s begin.
1. Holding Emotional Weight That’s Not Mine
When someone books a session, especially those who’ve lost someone recently, they bring with them a field of deep emotion—grief, confusion, pain, even unspoken guilt. As a medium, I open myself to their energy completely to serve as a clear channel.
While I’m not “taking on” their pain, I’m feeling it.
Why I Feel Drained After a Reading: These deep emotional transmissions touch me at the soul level.
How I Recharge:
After such sessions, I take time to cry, to journal, or simply sit in silence. I remind myself: “This was not mine to carry, but it passed through me for healing.” Letting it go is an act of spiritual hygiene.
2. Being a Bridge Between Two Worlds Is Energy-Intensive
Mediumship is not just talking to spirits—it’s an attunement. It’s like tuning into a subtle radio frequency that requires intense concentration. Just like a battery draining with every connection, my energy too gets depleted.
Every spirit communicates differently—some through visuals, others through feelings, symbols, scents, or even rapid impressions. Translating that into clear human language is exhausting, even if the session itself lasts only 45 minutes.
How I Recharge:
I take spiritual “offline time.” I disconnect from all energetic inputs—no readings, no spirit communication, no discussions. Just grounding. Nature, salt baths, walking barefoot on grass—anything that roots me back into the Earth.
3. I Match My Frequency to the Client and the Spirit
To serve both the living and the spirit, I must match their vibration. If a client’s energy is chaotic, filled with fear, trauma, or anger, I must stabilize and raise that frequency within the session to allow healing and communication. The same goes for spirits—some come with high light energy, others carry remnants of pain or confusion.
The work is sacred, but energetically, it’s like adjusting dials on a radio constantly while running a marathon.
How I Recharge:
Post-session, I cleanse. This is non-negotiable. I use smoke (sandalwood, palo santo, or frankincense), sound healing, and lots of deep breathwork. I also visualize my aura being repaired and resealed with golden light.
4. Reading for Multiple Clients Back-to-Back
Back-to-back sessions mean layered energy fields, emotional themes, and spiritual imprints.
Why I Feel Drained After a Reading: There’s little time to reset fully between sessions.
How I Recharge:
Buffer time. Grounding foods. Breathing space. Even a short pause is medicine.
5. Some Spirits Are Heavy
Not all spirits come in peace. Some are stuck. Some are confused. Some are still carrying their pain or guilt. As a medium, I don’t turn anyone away, but the emotional bandwidth it takes to hold space for such spirits is immense.
Some come with unfulfilled karma. Some need help to move on. Some simply want to say they’re sorry.
How I Recharge:
I pray. I call upon my guides, angels, and ancestors. I ask them to transmute the energy, to protect me, and to guide the spirit to where it belongs. I also do soul-clearing meditations at night to release any lingering spiritual residue.
6. Spiritual Boundaries Get Tested
No matter how disciplined you are, some sessions push boundaries. Some clients want more answers than the spirit offers. Some want closure that can’t be given immediately. Some spirits are intense, and some don’t want to leave when the session ends.
This spiritual overstretching can leave me feeling open and unprotected.
How I Recharge:
I enforce spiritual boundaries the way a doctor ends appointments. When the session ends, I close the channel. I even say it out loud: “Thank you, Spirit. The session is complete.” This closure resets the energetic contract.
7. My Emotional Triggers Can Be Activated
As much as I aim to be neutral, I’m human too. If a father comes through in spirit, and he says something a client always longed to hear, it might mirror my wounds or memories. Sometimes, I cry after sessions—not just for them, but for parts of me too.
This sacred mirroring is both healing and draining.
How I Recharge:
I process. I give myself space to sit with those emotions. I talk to a trusted healer or journal about it. I remember: Mediumship also heals the medium.
8. Energy Leaks From Overgiving
Sometimes, I want a client so badly to get closure that I overextend myself. I try to find more signs, more messages, even when Spirit has said what they came to say. This overgiving is from compassion, but it creates energy leaks.
When I give more than is asked spiritually, I pay the price physically.
How I Recharge:
I remind myself that I’m a channel, not a savior. I am here to deliver what is meant, not to force healing on someone’s timeline. Detachment is sacred. I reaffirm my role and stop trying to “fix.”
9. Energetic Imprints Stay Even After Session Ends
Sometimes, even after a session ends, the energy of the client or spirit lingers. Their grief, their pain, their need for answers—it stays like an echo in the room or my body. This spiritual residue can create fatigue hours later.
How I Recharge:
I clean the space energetically—open windows, ring bells, mop floors with salt water. I bathe with rose water or essential oils to reset my auric field. The body and space must always be cleared.
10. Because I Care Deeply
This may sound simple, but it’s the truth: I feel drained because I care. I don’t treat sessions as “jobs.” I enter each one with love, reverence, and full-hearted presence. I give it my all. And giving love is beautiful—but it does leave you tender and tired.
How I Recharge:
I let love flow back into me. I meditate on the Divine Mother. I listen to soulful bhajans. I rest. I don’t chase productivity. I let myself be filled before I serve again.
Final Thoughts: Feel Drained After a Reading? It’s a Sign of Sacred Exchange
To feel drained after a reading doesn’t mean something went wrong—it means something sacred happened. Something honest, real, and heart-opening passed through.
If you’re a seeker reading this, know that every session is a sacred exchange of energy.
And if you’re a budding healer or intuitive, remember this truth:
Your energy is your greatest gift. Protect it. Replenish it. Honor it.
Because when we take care of ourselves, we serve with authenticity, grace, and grounded love.
